OK readers, at this point you probably know that I’m a very passionate person and whenever I have a feeling toward something, I feel it fully with no room for hesitation. Well, here I am again with something that I (surprisingly) didn’t chime in on in our March issue: women’s reproductive rights.
I’m going to preface this right off the bat so that my message here isn’t convoluted in any way, shape or form. I believe that another woman’s reproductive rights is her own personal business that requires no other outside input. Some people may throw me into the “pro-choice” viewpoint. If that’s how you label that perspective, then sure, I’m “pro-choice.” Though, I like to call it “pro-it’s none of my business.”
I have a question for the whole “anti-choice” viewpoint: When did it ever become OK to insert yourself and your unwarranted opinion into another person’s healthcare? Reader, please allow me to clarify that contraception and abortion are healthcare. Whether or not you support either of those things, you can’t negate that fact.
When did it ever become OK for the government to regulate a woman’s body and what she does with it? They’re not the ones that are going to deal with the repercussions of being backed into a corner.
To clarify, when I say “being backed into a corner,” I’m referring to the fact that access to comprehensive sexual education, as well as other measures of birth control, are being limited at both state and federal levels. If there are insanely difficult trials that women have to get through to even prevent the need for an abortion, it’s the same as pressing someone into a corner with no other choice.
This can be seen through President Trump’s personal vendetta for the organization Planned Parenthood (which, by the way, offers so much more reproductive health services than just abortions…though, those who are screaming for its defunding wouldn’t know that because they won’t do the research themselves and would rather blindly follow a sexist bigot).
So, here are some numbers for those who won’t look into it:
According to a 2017 report from Planned Parenthood, only 3.4 percent of its services were for abortions. The bulk of its services are STI testing and treatment at 48.7 percent. Please think about that for a minute. Let that sink in. I won’t say any more on this section as I hope you’ll look at the data yourself and not let others control your thoughts.
Now, if you’re one of those people that says, “then don’t make rash decisions and get yourself pregnant,” let me tell you something before I go any further. Please take a step back and have a moment of clarity at how ignorant and dismissive that statement is. You can’t really believe that everyone has your same outlook on sex and that it’s impure and immoral to partake in, especially for women.
I’m going to say this really dryly and candidly. Women are allowed to have sex, even if they aren’t married.
And if you completely disagree with that statement, please do everyone who doesn’t have a similar outlook a favor; keep your opinions to yourself.
Also, not every woman that gets pregnant was being “rash.” Condoms break, the pill and other forms of contraception are not 100 percent effective. And why are women always blamed for being rash, but men rarely are? Men have a responsibility as well. .
Women. Are. Allowed. To. Have. Sex.
Another thing, pregnancy should not be used as a scare tactic or punishment for having sex and for preaching abstinence. I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I’ve seen that as an argument. It boils my blood.
As someone I know put it, abortion is not the only option and that “adoption agencies are available to take babies that are unwanted and place them in a home.” What this ideology fails to address is the pretty price tag of carrying a pregnancy to term, even if you aren’t keeping the child.
According to nerdwallet.com, “the combined median charges for mother and newborn care for a normal, vaginal delivery were $17,184,” in 2014. This is just for labor and delivery. Other things such as prenatal vitamins and ultrasounds are on top of those costs.
So no, for some people, adoption is not an option. If a woman isn’t in a great financial situation or isn’t willing to put themselves in debt to have the baby just to give it up, adoption isn’t an option. It’s easy to stand by and say, “well, don’t get an abortion, give the baby up for adoption,” when you’re not the one footing the bill. Keep that in mind the next time you throw that line at someone. Perspective is everything.
I also want to address the fact that using a guilt tactic to manipulate women into carrying an unwanted pregnancy to term by saying things like, “other women who want children of their own can’t have them and here you are ‘killing’ your baby” is one of the most putrid things you could do/say to someone. It is not your place to stand by judging someone who doesn’t want a child and doesn’t want to be a parent.
Don’t use manipulation to further your agenda. It’s nauseating.
You can have your opinion on whether abortion is “morally corrupt,” but what you shouldn’t do is force other people to live within your standards and lifestyle.
Think of it this way, if you’re on a diet and you go to a restaurant, you’re not going to force everyone in there to eat within your diet’s standards. So, back off of people and their personal healthcare choices.
The “anti-choice” mission isn’t to stand up for “baby’s rights.” It’s to control women and to limit their already limited options, thanks to state and federal regulation that have no rational ground to stand on.
Those who are “anti-choice” should have no input in the future of a woman’s life.
And yes, it IS my body, it IS my right and it IS my choice.